This week, we discuss the intersection of purity culture and how AFAB folks tangle with body image upon entering and learning to navigate the scene. What can the pressures of idealized body image do to a person? And how can we start to reject the false standards of beauty taught to us through media and social reinforcement?Please note that in this episode, we used the terms "male-bodied" and "female-bodied" but have since learned more and are changing our language to "AFAB" and "AMAB" in future discussions moving forward! Here's an article on purity culture! --> Purity Culture and Its Effect on Mental Health (verywellmind.com)**TRIGGER WARNING** We will be discussing purity culture, referencing rape culture briefly as it is correlated to purity culture, and discussing the impact of distorted body image & body dysmorphia. ---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

Have you ever wondered what the appeal is when it comes to kinkifying religion & religious trauma? There is something so alluring and taboo about this sacred form of play and inversion - many people are curious, and some are downright scared to look closer. Join us as we interview Miss Blu Thiccc'ems (tatted_unicorn on fet!) and she takes us through her journey into coping with religious trauma through kink!If you are interested in Miss Blu's Church of Blasphemy class series, check out the link here and follow her on fetlife for more! ---> Blu’s Church of Blasphemy - Event | FetLife**TRIGGER WARNING** This episode contains references to the following content which some may find triggering or disturbing: References to underage kink & sex (this non-explicit part of Miss Blu's story is included because we are committed to honoring people's life experiences. K is for Kinky does not condone or endorse underage kink or pedophilia of any kind!) Specific reference begins at 10:20 in the episode and ends at 12:18.References to child abuse and religious trauma start at 13:05 and goes until 14:46.From minutes 19:12 to 26:52, Miss Blu discusses childhood abuse, religious trauma, and a corrective kink experience. These stories are graphic and may be disturbing to some listeners. A trigger warning is inside the episode to cue you in case you are listening and need the verbal reminder!---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

A listener wrote in with a great question that many Tops struggle with...how do we stay connected in scenes and show up with our full selves? How do we access our vulnerability as Tops? In a world where Tops are often portrayed as knowing it all, doing it all, and somehow embodying calm aloofness at all times, we need to be able to detangle the fantasy and look at the real goal...which is human beings showing up for each other be they Tops or bottoms. What does it take to be your full self in a scene? And how can you stand strong in your role without sacrificing your authenticity? ---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

Did you know there's a kink server for SoCal where 300+ members hang out, go to munches, and even throw their own gatherings? Welcome to So Cal Kink (aka SCK), the server that started small and boomed during the covid shutdowns! We interview Cid, the incredibly kind organizer who designed the SCK server and poured his passion into creating a safer community space where people could be themselves and form lasting friendships. How did SCK get started? Why is Cid called "Cid?" And when is a leader not a leader?Find out in this episode of K is for Kinky!---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

For the very first episode of season 3, we sit down with Mistress Cyan to discuss what it's like to start and manage a dungeon space! If you have ever thought about opening your own dungeon or want to know some of the behind-the-scenes details about what it takes to make ends meet and build connections, this is definitely a must-listen episode! Please consider helping out our homeless/unhoused population in the Los Angeles area! One easy way of doing this is to donate funds or time to an organization that distributes resources to the homeless. We want to highlight Solidarity & Snacks, a ragtag mutual aid group that distributes supplies to skid row every Saturday. Click on the link below to find out more!Solidarity and Snacks | Twitter | Linktree---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

In this final episode before Season 3, we answer a listener question about how to dismount from a scene that goes sour. What happens internally when we wonder if it's time to call a scene, and how do we recover in the aftermath? We discuss this from the Topside, bottomside, and even through the lens of first-time-scenes vs. established play partnerships! Calling a scene doesn't have to be a bad thing. Let's talk about why so many of us struggle with discomfort, and how to reframe the process of calling a scene!---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him

Happy Holidays from K is for Kinky! We wanted to share this top-secret hot take with all of you as a special thank you for tuning into season 2! As the year closes, we are taking a little breather to get through the holidays and set up our schedule for season 3! More changes will be announced in our final episode of the season, so keep an eye out for that and get ready for a brand new season starting next January! ---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

We answer a listener question about how to maintain long-term dynamics and relationships. It's a heartfelt take on what it really means to watch a person grow over time, including reflections on our own relationship and the impact of personal development and organic change in how we view ourselves, what we want, and the impact this can have on our partnerships. We get into the organs of this question, but we also provide some concrete tips to keep your relationship fresh!Most of all, we hope you take away from this episode that no relationship is perfect. People change over time, and there are always ups & downs. If you are struggling in your relationship or simply wondering what it's like to be in a long-term dynamic, we can offer insight into our own journey that will hopefully be useful as you navigate your life!---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

This holiday season we want to pour some love onto one of our favorite vendors...The Kinky Peach! Join us as we explore their website thoroughly, complete with genuine reactions and descriptions of some pretty innovative, adorable toys! If you stay tuned for the whole episode, you might even get a 15% off discount code...Are YOU a vendor with unique kinky stuff? Send us an email at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com to see if we can help spotlight you in 2024!---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

A lot of people know the phrase, "Your kink is not my kink and that's ok!" But kinkshaming manifests in lots of different ways, and this conversation addresses some of the nuances between internalized reactions, processing, projections of discomfort, and the space between kinkshaming and discussing risks and concerns. ---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

What is the difference between funishment and punishment? In D/s, there is often a place made for both - but who decides which is which?We will cover things like:Masochism (and how pain tolerance and enjoyment play into the effectiveness of punishments)Headspace IntentionD-type AccountabilityCertain conditions in which punishing an s-type may be inappropriate or abusiveWhy funishment is so fun (and the function of funishment)...and even more! Tune in to hear our answer to this listener question! If YOU would like to ask us a question for the podcast, send an email to kisforkinkyje@gmail.com !---**Trigger Warning** This episode references the fact that abuse can exist in D/s dynamics. We will discuss some of the ethical implications of punishment, including a reference to the archetypal relationship between parent-child, one of the first punishment-based power dynamics we experience. If you are uncomfortable with this, please check out a different episode of K is for Kinky! In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

We answer a listener question in this episode of K is for Kinky: how does adding in sexual touch and sexual play change a scene? Is it really that different? How does sex change negotiation, headspace, and risk levels? We cover all this and more (including a reference to hamburger-stealing and redoing first times) in this hilarious episode!---**Trigger Warning** This episode mentions sexual trauma without going into explicit detail and the impact that known trauma can have on scene negotiations and risk profile. If you are not in a place where you can hear reference to trauma, check out another episode of K is for Kinky! In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

We've got one word for you: coulrophobia. It's everywhere! Literally. Thanks to the TV series "IT" and the movie remake by Stephen King, multiple generations are now terrified of clowns. But did you know that clown play goes beyond fear? Join us this week to hear from Unger, a kinkster with two clown personas who shares why he enjoys this unique fetish...and why sometimes, it's ok to approach street clowns (but seriously, maybe don't?)---**Trigger Warning** This episode discusses clowns. If you are scared of clowns and cannot tolerate hearing about them, skip this one!In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

Happy Halloween! It's time for us to answer a question nobody is asking (but we all really ought to) ... what do vampires and kinksters have in common? Besides frequenting dungeons, you'd be surprised by this theory that vampires are coded to represent a lot more than a creepy guy with hunger pangs!We discuss many TV shows & books, so please heed the spoiler list below before listening. And much love to all of the authors, directors, and creators who have contributed to modern vampire lore! At the end of the day, we're all entitled to our opinions...but if somebody made this list, it's because they did something impactful with their art! Whether you sparkle in the daylight or get burned to a crisp, we hope you enjoy this Halloween special!---**Trigger Warning** This episode discusses vampires and occasionally references things like blood. In particular, a throwback to our bloodplay episode can be avoided by skipping the following time stamps [9:38-9:52]. **SPOILER ALERT** We reference multiple movies and TV shows in this episode with several instances where certain parts are spoiled! "What We Do in the Shadows" is referenced in the opening [starting at 1:42 and ending at 2:09] & again in more detail later on [starting at 17:12 and ending at 18:55] with other mentions [starting at 32:00 and ending at 33:00] and finishing with a MAJOR POTENTIAL SPOILER from [34:50 to 35:18]. Bram Stoker's "Dracula" is referenced [starting at 10:38 and ending at 10:48] with a few non-specific mentions throughout the rest of the episode. Anne Rice's body of work, but more specifically "Interview with a Vampire," is referenced multiple times throughout the episode. To avoid hearing explicit spoilers for Anne Rice, skip through the following time stamps [starting at 12:26 and ending at 12:54] & again [starting at 19:10 and ending at 20:18]. "True Blood" is referenced multiple times [starting at 15:57 and ending at 16:05] and again [starting 28:33 and ending at 30:46]. "Buffy" in referenced non-explicitly in the first 20 minutes but gets a slightly more thorough discussion later [starting at 20:20 and ending at 23:01] and again [starting at 23:29 and ending at 24:22]. "Twilight" is brought up and spoilers are dropped [starting at 24:26 and ending at 28:27]. Outside of earlier passing references, we end on the 2022 "Interview with a Vampire" TV series, which you can skip if you wish using these time stamps [starting at 35:19 and ending at 36:29]. Other shows like "Vampire Diaries" are mentioned but not discussed in any spoiler-y detail!In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

Happy Halloween! We are so excited for spooky season and thought we'd celebrate by doing a vewy scawy episode all about:BLOODPLAY!For real. This episode, we interview the amazing Sox to learn a little bit about the world of bloodplay. We cover safety, types of bloodplay, why this kink is so interesting...and why you should do your research before playing with leeches. The audio quality of this episode is haunted - a ghost got in the machine and really jammed things up. We apologize! As a treat to make up for this trick, Eden commentates. So if you're ready to have a bloody good time, hit the play button and enjoy this K is for Kinky interview!**TRIGGER WARNING!** This episode in its entirety has the potential to be triggering if you are squeamish about blood. There are also mentions of leech-play with a trigger warning inside of the episode to help you avoid the story. You have been warned! Please do not consume this episode if you are already getting squicked out by the title! ---Find out more about us at kisforkinky.org, our official website!---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

It's a pretty steep climb to the top! What do new Tops face when they come into the scene? Miss Jenn and Eden share their own experiences and feelings on the subject, including: The burden on Tops to "know things"Being safe by being honestPacing scenesGetting to know your own style...and much more!Make sure to check out our instagram so that you can follow along with our weekly Cheeky notes, selfies, and funny memes! We are KisforKinky :)---Find out more about us at kisforkinky.org, our official website!---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

If you know, you know: it's a really big challenge to be a parent, let alone a parent who leads a covert kinky lifestyle! What do you do when your kiddos are too young to be left at home? How can shared custody impact opportunities to explore the scene? At what age is it okay to leave the kids behind to take a night for yourself? And most challenging of all...what do you do when your child gets old enough to ask questions about kink?This episode IS about kinksters who are parents. This episode is NOT about raising children within BDSM, nor do we condone exposing children to BDSM or other adult activities. We are here to have a conversation about the nuance and balancing act that raising kiddos requires when you lead a kinky double-life!---Find out more about us at kisforkinky.org, our official website!---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

In this episode, Jenn & Eden answer a listener question about exhibitionism & possessive behavior in relationships. Why do so many people find possessiveness, protectiveness, and even jealousy arousing? How can we safely play with these feelings without crossing the line into toxic behavior? And how do you break the news to your partner that you like it when they get a little jealous? Jenn & Eden cover:The broad range of behaviors that could fall under an exhibitionist categoryWhy we might enjoy exhibitionism - is it embarrassing/humiliating, is it exciting? What's underneath this fetish? We explore some healthy ways to consensually explore possessive behavior...and also some not-so-healthy examples of possessiveness going sideways!Bonus roleplay included!---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

In this episode, Jenn & Eden answer a listener question about what the difference is between a Dominant and a Master/Mistress!You will hear...What a kink is vs. what a role/honorific isThe spectrum of roles & the overlapping spectrum of power exchangeWhat some people think it means to be a Master/MistressAdjectives vs. RolesWhether or not the BDSMtest.org is a true litmus test of who you are and what you're into (our answer may shock and/or delight you!)What did YOU get on the BDSMtest.org test??? Tell us on discord or email us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com!---**Episode Resources** Psychology Today Article on Kinks - What Is Kink? | Psychology TodayBDSMtest.org Test - BDSM Test: What kind of sexual deviant are you?---In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!

Have you ever thought of dressing up like a schoolgirl and getting spanked? How about doing a roleplay where you call your naughty submissive into the principal's office? Student/Teacher and school-themed roleplays are some of the most prevalently discussed fantasies in vanilla and BDSM culture alike...but why? What is so enticing about these archetypes? Most importantly, how can we use roleplay to explore the darker corners of our psyche? ---**Trigger Warning** This episode discusses the way our culture fetishizes teenage sexuality. While it is not the main subject of this episode, it is acknowledged and referenced by the hosts as a legitimate and important aspect of reflecting upon why the teacher/student roleplay kink is so prevalent. If you do not want to hear about the way our culture portrays teenagers in media, please check out a different episode of K is for Kinky!**SPOILER ALERT** We reference multiple movies and TV shows in this episode with several instances where certain parts of each story are spoiled! The 1996 movie "Matilda" is openly discussed [spoiler starts at 14:20 and ends at 15:27 and comes up AGAIN from 30:20 to 30:27], the plot of the 2006 movie "Loving Annabelle" is described in detail [spoiler starts at 15:38 and ends at 16:17], very basic references to the Breakfast Club are made [spoiler starts at 17:30 and ends at 17:54], aspects of the Witcher are discussed pertaining to Yennifer of Vengerberg's origin story [spoiler starts at 24:36 and ends at 26:06], mild spoilers for The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina Season 1 are referenced [spoiler starts at 27:47 and ends at 28:20], and aspects of the show Wednesday are discussed [spoiler starts at 28:23 and ends at 28:40]. Other movies and TV shows are also referenced, but nothing said is spoiler-worthy!In other news...our new website is up!!! Find us at kisforkinky.org---We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off! Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky~*~Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at kisforkinkyje@gmail.com if you want to reach him!